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Different Loving Too, Dr. Gloria G. Brame
Genre: Sexuality, BDSM, LGBT (Non-fiction)
Release Date: January 2016
Different Loving has really grown up with its audience. The original volume, cataloging the interests and practices of people within the BDSM scene, was an elegant and vital introduction. But as I learn and grow I find that what is most interesting in kink is not the trappings, but the intellectual, emotional, and spiritual aspects that lead people to kink in the first place. Different Loving Too focuses on all those things. It references peer-reviewed science, and interviews practitioners on their community, on their ethics, and on their needs. Different Loving Too brings Dr. Brame’s work full-circle, from raw sensation to the subtle beauty of a knowing glance.
— Joy S. Grape, Moderator, Sex and Gender Lab (FaceBook)
If you think all people who practice BDSM are the same, think again. Different Loving Too illuminates the wide range of motivations, meanings, and practices of kinksters, and offers a fascinating look behind the dungeon (and bedroom) door. No matter how much experience you do or don’t have in the scene, you’re sure to learn something new.
— Rachel Kramer Bussel, Editor, Dirty Dates: Erotic Fantasies for Couples
To Buy: Amazon
Who first encouraged you to write, and how?
I’ve been a bit of a graphomaniac since I was a kid, always scribbling poems and thoughts and revelations into notebooks, always treating life like I was the fly on the wall observing how people behaved. I knew by age ten that I wanted to be some kind of a writer, thanks to my fourth grade teacher making me write her letters all summer. The most meaningful source of support for me came from public school teachers and then college professors who encouraged me to keep writing. They made me believe I had talent.
What inspired you to write this book?
This book was a project of the heart. I always wanted to follow up the original Different Loving, but things changed so quickly over time, that I didn’t know where to begin. How do you even describe the changes in perceptions that the Internet has brought? But I finally decided I had to do this before I got too old (I’m 60 now), and somehow, I did find a way to encompass the literal revolution in BDSM/fetish sex. I focused on the people who lived it, and let their stories tell the real story of how BDSM has changed and, more importantly, how they have maintained healthy, loving relationships despite what all the critics of this lifestyle always claimed.
What do you think is the most important quality to cultivate to be a successful writer?
Self-discipline in the face of self-hatred, maybe. Writers can be their own worst enemies, dredging up every anxiety and insecurity in the process of writing, and treating their book like a dysfunctional stepchild. I’ve known writers who get hives or puke when they write, others who can’t do it without alcohol. It took me decades to be able, finally, to drown out the insecurities by sticking to a mindless routine of writing every day at the same time. Treating it like a job leaves less room for self-pity, IMX 🙂